Feb 16

100 Questions – How Can I be Better at Everything?

Everything? Well, I thought it would be worth the time to put in the research. Seriously, who doesn’t want to become better at everything? My original assumption was to believe this in real life isn’t possible. But what if I could find an idea, someone’s hypothesis on how I might get close?

The internet was full of possibilities but I found one that resonated with much of my own thoughts on the subject. Better yet, it focused on just 4 areas of your life. Perfect – right? Not so fast…

Those 4 areas, according to completehumanperformance.com are:

  1. Health
  2. Fitness
  3. Productivity
  4. Critical Thinking

While normally I’d summarize the material, this post deserves a full read and can be found by clicking here.

I felt that Critical Thinking is the one most overlooked.

See if any of the 4 are the missing link on you becoming better at something then leave a comment about it.

Feb 12

100 Questions – How Can I Stay Motivated to Keep a Healthy Lifestyle?

I have wrestled with this idea for most of my life – you may have too. Keeping a healthy lifestyle has never been a knowledge issue – I know what to do! The internet is full of diets, healthy eating suggestions, supplement ideas, walking plans, running plans, blah, blah, blah! The problem for me has always been execution.

Now for those that know me, that statement may seem out of place. I’ve been exercising most of my life. I remember reading the iconic book “Arnold” when I was in 9th grade and joining Bob’s gym – hardcore competitive bodybuilding and powerlifting gym in Montgomery, AL. I’ve set multiple state records in powerlifting as well as running 50 miles in a 12 hour endurance race. I’ve practiced the Paleo lifestyle, the Primal Endurance lifestyle, and practiced intermittent fasting.

In general, I’m a highly motivated person but… I have seasons where even I lack motivation to operate at the high level I think you need to stay healthy. I realize now it was the competition that drove me and still does to some extent. But when I’m not competing my motivation wanes.

Thus, the question – How Can I Stay Motivated to Keep a Healthy Lifestyle?

I know what’s worked so far… Get plenty of sleep – sleep is gold! I built a home powerlifting gym in my basement. I get up early so I have the time each morning to run or powerlift. Don’t keep junk food in the house but treat yourself periodically to something you know you probably shouldn’t eat. Make healthy food choices as often as possible and don’t tear yourself down when you don’t. You get the picture.

I recently read about the importance of intrinsic and extrinsic values. In other words, what motivates you to exercise – is it the compliments you receive or maybe the fact that you’ll feel better and live longer?

Here are a few ideas from a recent blog post from Nextavenue.org.

Get Personal: What Motivates You?

To determine your intrinsic motivation, ask yourself questions like:

  • What is most important to me? For Nolan, it was his family. (His wife, in particular, was concerned about his health.)
  • What activities do I enjoy that I don’t currently do, or that I’d like to continue doing? (Do you love golf? Do you want to take a walking tour of Europe?)
  • How do I feel when I’m doing something positive for my health? (Proud? Confident? In control?)
  • What simple steps can I take to move in the right direction? (This could be something as minor as eating more vegetables or walking every night after dinner.)
  • How would I like to feel about my health in a month? (Three months? Six?)

So at the end of the day I find my motivation in personal gains. It’s all about the competition. I just have an innate need to compete. But as I’ve gotten older I realize the competition is against myself. I have recently decided to come out of retirement and will be getting back into endurance racing again. So I’ve registered for an upcoming trail race. But I also realize I want to keep powerlifting and those don’t usually go together.

So what now? I’ve found people are hybrid athletes – they are in great shape and they do the endurance sports. You don’t need to be overly skinny to do endurance sports.

So, when all is said and done what’s the answer to my question? We’ll it’s one that I already knew that would work for me. It’s something that I’ve taught my kids. It’s something that I literally sometimes yell at the top of my lungs when home alone to get myself fired up for the day – what is it? “MOTIVATE YOURSELF!”

Become a student of motivation and execute. Nobody can do it for you. Eventually you have to get off the couch, cut off the TV, quit surfing the net and execute!

Feb 04

Spiritual Formation Part Ten – Study

As far as spiritual formation goes, we sometimes forget about the spiritual discipline of study.

To quote Dallas Willard from the book The Making of an ordinary Saint, by Nathan Foster, “We need to understand that Jesus was a thinker, that this is not a dirty word but an essential work, and that his other attributes do not preclude thought, but only ensure that he is certainly the greatest thinker of the human race: “the most intelligent person who ever lived on earth.””

Nathan Foster in that same book notes that there are 4 steps to study when seen as a spiritual discipline:

  1. Repetition
  2. Concentration
  3. Comprehension
  4. Reflection

Unfortunately many people believe that they have the intellectual ability to interpret scripture by just reading scripture – now I’m not saying some don’t, but I believe it’s rare without study. Add to that many don’t have study bibles or commentaries to do serious study. Fortunately the internet offers many study opportunities for study if you can find a trusted source.

In seminary the only bible we were allowed to use was the New Revised Standard Version. Scholars at the Candler School of Theology felt it was the cleanest translation. Of course the actual bible can be found on the internet for free as well as many commentators in any version you like.

I personally spend most of my time using the New International Version study bible as well as other commentaries.

So, the spiritual discipline of study has never been easier. This might be the one that provides a catalyst for your spiritual growth.

Remember the disciplines that seem the hardest, if we stick with it, may be the best. Also, some disciplines may work for a season and will need to be revisited in the future. Do what works for you! Just do it!

Jan 30

20 Plus Ways to Minister to Your Wife and Family

Whether you’re new to the faith or an old hand… Sometimes we forget that every family needs a spiritual leader. Let’s define family at a minimum a of a person of one! Even singles need to lead themselves – so we’re talking about everybody needing a spiritual leader in the family.

Once again this can be an intimidating proposition regardless of how far you’ve traveled on your spiritual journey, yet it’s a bridge we must cross. You’ll have a healthier family if you do.

While there are many ways to minister to your wife and family I found three to be very important.

  1. I’m always sure that my family is in Worship each week. When my kids were young and lived at home, I didn’t take a vote on who wanted to go to church or not. If it’s Sunday and you’re not sick we would pretty much be in church. We also found it important that they attended Sunday School so that they received appropriate age level teaching.
  2. We would also pray together each day. We would form a circle, ask for prayer requests and pray together to start our day before school. Now that we’re empty nesters we still hold hands and pray before work.
  3. My wife and I still have a date night EVERY week!

While these are just 3 possibilities, I found a post that offers even more ways to minister to your wife and family. I think number 8 is really important and something I think we forget too often – works for husbands and wives.

Check out this list of 25 ways to minister to your wife and family

Leave a comment and tell me which resonates or has worked for you.

Jan 30

Spiritual Formation Part Nine – The Crucible

Crucible

  1. a ceramic or metal container in which metals or other substances may be melted or subjected to very high temperatures.”the crucible tipped and the mold filled with liquid metal”
    • a situation of severe trial, or in which different elements interact, leading to the creation of something new.

A situation of severe trial…. What does severe trial and spiritual formation have in common? Perhaps everything! But severe trial, seriously? Yup, you got it!

How? Why? Because it leads to the creation of something new. As we grow spiritually we become a new creation in Christ. When we become a new creation in Christ it becomes a game changer for all – not just us but for all those in our lives. It’s not just a gift to us but to other’s as well.

So back to the crucible. What might be the one thing that we might consider the crucible in the Christian church? For me, I would say it’s church membership, or as I like to refer to it, church partnership. Why? Because it provides a place of accountability. And if you’ve never been held accountable for your spiritual formation then it could feel like a severe trial!

Accountability isn’t welcomed by most. We’d rather others not know where we are spiritually. And that’s a problem. You see you can go through the christian motions – Life Groups, Sunday School, Revivals, Worship, etc… and remain in a stagnant place spiritually if someone isn’t holding you accountable. Basically this is the Christian version of phoning it in. All show and no go. Now don’t read what I’m not writing. All of these offer wonderful opportunities for spiritual formation – if you’re serious about following through with what’s taught. But there may be no substitute for accountability.

That accountability in the Christian church comes in the form of church partnership. When one partners with the church in the United Methodist tradition one says that will be faithful in their prayers, presence, gifts, service and witness. When you partner you are saying I give you permission to hold me accountable in these areas.

To quote Richard Rohr, from his book Falling Upward – A Spirituality for the Two Halves of Life (p74), “A crucible, as you know, is a vessel that holds molten metal in place long enough to be purified and clarified. Church membership requirements, church doctrine, and church morality force almost all issues to an inner boiling point, where you are forced to face important issues at a much deeper level to survive as a Catholic or Christian, or even as a human. I think this is probably true of any religious community, if it’s doing it’s job. Before the truth “sets you free,” it tends to make you miserable.”

The key to church partnership is that you take it seriously and stick with it long enough to, as Rohr notes, that you stay in place long enough to be purified and clarified, so to speak. That means being intentional about your accountability and that perhaps is best done by partnering with the church.

If you decide to consider partnership with the church and take on serious accountability or consider allowing others to hold you seriously accountable for the first time, it might feel like a severe trial.

A situation of severe trial…. What does severe trial and spiritual formation have in common? Perhaps everything! But severe trial, seriously? Yup, you got it!

Jan 21

Work/Life Balance – Really?

I began working when I was around 10 years old at my uncle Harold’s Ann Street Gulf gas station. It was a full service station if you can remember those. I would make a dime for every car that would allow me to take a small whisk broom and sweep out all the floorboards. The thought of work/life balance was a foreign concept to me then.

But over time things changed. I got married and had kids. As an adult I realized the importance of work/life balance. My mentor, Barry, instilled in me that no church was worth losing my family over (I’m a United Methodist minister). I’ve never forgot that. I try to take care of myself physically, take my days off and take all of my vacation time each year.

But over the years I have started to notice a trend in lives that are out of balance. It seems its become a bragging right to note how many hours a week one works. Some seem to wear it as a badge of honor. While burning the candle at both ends, as they say, other things can become just a memory that we can never get back. Often that sacrifice comes at the expense of our health, spouses, family and perhaps the most crucial, our faith.

This out of balance situation is often veiled under the premise that it’s just for a season. Once the season is over things will get better and life will balance out. I’ll get back to my health, spouse, family, and faith. But often this starts to look like seasons in the South. They all start to run together. Before we know it we’ve lost that time that we’d worked so hard for – to be with our kids, families, spouses and with Christ. It’s as though the season never changed.

I recently read an article by Michael Hyatt called – What No One Ever Told You About Work Life Balance. In that post he noted that: 1. Balance is not the same as rest, 2. Balance is Dynamic, 3. Balance is Intentional.

I want to encourage you to get a handle on your work/life balance before the things that matter are a memory and you spend your life wondering what might have been.

I want to encourage to read Michael Hyatt’s short post mentioned above by clicking here – you’ll be glad you did.

Jan 17

100 Questions – How do Trains Pull So Much?

Maybe this is just a guy thing but… In the city I live in we have a train that passes through town several times a day, usually stopping me going somewhere important! As I watch these, sometimes long, trains with multiple engines facing both forward and backwards… Made me wonder?

How does a locomotive ever get moving without its steel wheels just spinning out? How does it ever get any traction? And what’s up with the locomotives facing forward and backwards? We’ll it was time for me to solve this childhood mystery as part of my 100 Question Challenge.

The answer was a lot simpler than I had ever imagined… It all had to do with the difference between kinetic and static friction. Static friction has everything to do with the friction created between the wheels and track. While Kinetic friction has everything to do with the motion of two surfaces working together. In the case of a train this would be couplings between the locomotive and each car.

In an easier explanation… All the locomotive needs to do is to get the first car started. Then the power of the locomotive and the first car creates the energy to get the third car moving. So, at that point you have a powerful locomotive, plus another fully loaded car creating momentum to just pull one car. So that domino effect just continues. So, by the time the last car starts rolling it has the power of an entire train needing to get just get one car started… That’s why there is space in between the couplings. This allows each car to get a little momentum to help pull the next car. Theoretically, if all the cars were tightly connected the locomotive alone couldn’t generate enough momentum to pull a long train. In that case the wheels might just spin out if it could get them turning to begin with.

Now for the locomotives going both forward and backwards. As it turns out, the way the locomotives are designed it doesn’t care which way it’s facing. It seems to have the same amount of power regardless.

Due to the physics involved, it’s harder for a locomotive to get 5 cars moving than an entire train.

As an added bonus, how do they stop? Easy, each car has brakes. But even with brakes, it takes a long time and distance to stop all that momentum.

If you want a more scientific explanation then read more here.

Jan 14

Spiritual Formation Part Eight – Meditation

Meditation often gets a bad rap! Why? I believe that many associate it with other religions and never realize that Christian meditation has been around for ages. And may be the one Spiritual Discipline that changes your life!

To quote Nathan Foster (The Making of an Ordinary Saint), “The main distinction of Christian meditation is a focus on filling rather then emptying.” (of the mind)

Christian meditation is often done in silence and solitude where you can just be still and listen for God’s often quiet voice and sometime loud scream!

Here are some great quotes from Richard Foster on this meaningful spiritual discipline: “Prayer is the interactive relationship we have with God about what we and God are working on together. Christian meditation is the listening side of this interactive relationship. God speaks and teaches and we listen and obey.” “Christian meditation is the spiritual discipline that helps us to listen well and to hear correctly.”

Christian meditation has become one of my most meaningful spiritual disciplines that I practice. At first it was a struggle. You would think that just sitting in silence and solitude would be easy. But oh how the mind can wander. At first I struggled with just settling my mind down from whatever was happening in my day and redirecting it to the listening of Christ. At times it was like the old saying – it was like trying to heard cats! I would be in a sweet spot of listening to Christ when all the sudden a stray thought would take me somewhere else. But with all the disciplines, the more I practiced the easier it became. Now when I sit to practice Christian meditation it doesn’t take long to settle in. Now don’t get me wrong, I still have my days when my mind will wander, but nothing like it once was.

With all the spiritual disciplines you may go through seasons on what works and what doesn’t. With some spiritual disciplines you not give them the due time to let them work for you – they are called disciplines after all. So don’t write any of them off until you’ve really worked through them.

I would highly encourage you to give Christian meditation a serious look as it may do wonders for your spiritual formation.

Jan 14

100 Questions – How do Water Towers Work?

Last summer I enjoyed riding my motorcycle on a local country road. Part of that ride would take me past a water tower that was being repainted. I was mesmerized by the men who were slung over the side of the tower repainting it. Never thought much about the tower itself. But recently I realized that they seem to be all over the place – I practically have one in my backyard. I’ve heard rumors that they just hold water but it has to be move sophisticated than that. So I’ve added that to my 100 question challenge – How do water towers work? My research proved that it was a little more interesting than being just a storage tank. If you want to watch one of the most informative short videos on how the towers work then look no further – just click here!

Dec 30

100 Questions – How can I become a better resource to my adult kids?

This is part of my 100 question challenge. If you’re not familiar then I’d encourage you to stop and read why I’m trying to answer my 100 questions in 2019 here.

First, I thought about ways that my wife and I have already been a good resource:

  1. We taught them to be debt free except for their house.
  2. We made them pay for half of their first car. Whatever they saved we matched.
  3. We had a rule that nothing good happens after 10 pm. So there was no just hanging out after 10 pm. without a reason and permission. This was not as appreciated as I thought it should be! 🙂
  4. We taught them to give 10% of their income to the church.
  5. We taught them that church attendance and serving are uber important. You’ll never regret either.
  6. Being polite will go a long ways with others.
  7. Have a great work ethic.
  8. Paid for their college – undergraduate. One daughter went to grad school but on her dime!

But all that happened before they were adults – and it paid off! But, as part of my 100 question challenge I wondered how I might continue to be a resource for them and their husbands now that they are adults and married… So the search began…

Psychology Today noted in a post that you need to be careful about not becoming a codependent parent… How can you tell if you’re a codependent parent? Here are 3 red flags according to Psychologytoday.com:

“Psychology Today’s Dr. Jeffrey Bernstein, who has written about the topic several times, says the question of whether you are a codependent parent is a topic that sparks heated debates. The three red flags he says you should look for are: (1) shouldering debt for an adult son or daughter caught up in a pattern on non-productivity, (2) their habit of borrowing money from you because they can’t sustain consistent employment, and (3) disrespect is the rule and not the exception to it, but you use the excuse that your grown kid has “problems” — giving you the leeway to let them off the hook. In the real world you would never permit another grown adult to treat you similarly.” You can read the rest of the article here, if you think you might be a codependent parent. Or in denial….

Sounds like a great answer but it was only the beginning… After doing a lot of “Googling” I realized there wasn’t a ton of info dealing with being a positive resource for your adult children. Most were related to dealing with problem adult children. Well, that ‘s what we’re trying to avoid – right?

So I decided to go with my gut. My wife and I seemed to have had a pretty good start at preparing them for life, so I began to think, and here are a few things that I came up with.

  1. Create an atmosphere where they can come for opinions but understand they are adults and capable of making their own final decisions. Even if it’s not the one I would’ve made.
  2. Help them in understanding the importance of financial investments early in their careers. Warren Buffet, one of the world’s richest men, was once credited with this conversation: When asked what his secrets of financial success, replied, I lived to be old and compounding interest! Teach them about compounding interest.
  3. Even Einstein is rumored to have weighed in with this statement : Albert Einstein – Compound interest. Compound interest is the eighth wonder of the world. He who understands it, earns it … he who doesn’t … pays it.
  4. Encourage them to live within their means and resist the temptation of competing with the “Jones'”
  5. We have always encouraged “weekly date nights” and family vacations and continue to encourage them to do so.
  6. Always have insurance on the important stuff in your life.
  7. Always be in the process of learning something new. You’ll never regret it.

Well these are just the start of ways that I hope to be a better resource for my kids.

If you have one you’d like to share then please do so in the comments.